So a coworker set me up for a blind date with a friend of hers. She organized a 5-a-7 which turned out to be her, I and 4 other girls – two of which have apparently been well briefed out about me. More on this later.
So, as often the case in these things, I was more interested in the friend of the friend, meaning the second of the two girls and not the one my coworker was originally pimping. Was a fun night. Met up at a little pub&grill, had a few drinks and talked a lot. A lot of it was about their work – they all work for or with the Liberal Party of Canada, so they had a lot of office gossip. I kinda could have done without that, and the girl sitting besides me – who incidentally was the girl that caught my eye – came to my rescue and we spoke about music and books (always fun topics for me, and she's a concert violinist who's studying to be a music teacher)
The party lasted 'till about 9:30, at which time everybody split up and headed on their merry way. I walked with the girl from Bleury/St-Cath back to my office (to pick up my laptop) and then I took the bus with her to CDN. She lives around UofM, so she's close by.
Got home, had a doobie and zonked out in front of the TV for a while.
My computer is making a high-pitch fast clickety-clickety sound. I am worrying about an impending HDD failure :(
A note about a briefing. When I was walking towards the bus with the girl, she mentioned that she'd been well briefed about me: my likes for sushi, my passions for music and books, a few other sundry details and….get this… the fact that I wear my pants high.
WTF?? Excuse me? I'm sorry, but geez, if it's important to mention it to the girl you're setting me up with, you might want to think to MENTION IT TO ME FIRST???
I was chatting with my friend Robin about that. Her comments: “you don't criticize a person's style until you know them better and until it comes up in conversation in such a way that it won't be insulting”. Besides the fact that I've been working with the woman for a year and a half, that is such a woman's point of view. A guy would just come up and say “dude, those pants!”. She finished her IM message with “Notice that I never mentioned it either Luv”… and I've known Robs for close to 3 years now.
So please, ladies and gents who might be reading this. Is there anything that would be a hindrance in my quest for female companionship? Like, I dunno, bad BO or horrid manners, in my part, that would need to be brought to my attention? (besides the “Urquel style pants” as Robin dubbed them – to which I answer that I am NOT that bad).
From the comments I've gotten so far from friends (a la Why the fuck are you still single?), I would have assumed that all is well – but apparently, it wasn't. So come on, now would be a good time to tell me.
Aight, I'm lazy and assuming you're a guy. Which is a lot to assume based on an e-mail address, as mine once identified me as freudian concepts of the mind.
Here are some genderneutrals:
1. No self-confidence with women.
2. Naturally somewhat shy with everyone in real life, due to overcompetence with computers/code.
Unfortunately, I don't know any way to fix these, having been born with surfeit of appealing woundedness and abrasive self-confidence. My friend (ljuser)trzero went to Japan to fix it for himself.
(http://livejournal.com/users/pretentiousgit)
*makes face*
that she would *brief* them and not you seems a little…strange.
I do understand though..as a woman, if someone were to point out something (like consistently too short pants) I'd be mortified, I may never get over it…for a guy, it's a whatever…
So maybe you can give me some advice, since I'm lacking… my man has a friend, nice guy, tall, not bad to look at, but works all day in a warehouse..
dude does NOT shower after work..
he stinks like 0_o
I set him up with my dear friend, all went well 'till she smelled him..
she couldn't handle it, and didn't know how to tell him, so a potential relationship down the drain..
so what would have been the best way to tell you?
(http://livejournal.com/users/blacksquiggles)
Yes, I'm a guy :) As for the self-confidence and shyness, correct on both counts, but I'm actually getting much better on both fronts :D You should have seen me years ago :P
(http://livejournal.com/users/talisker)
It's not like she doesn't know me well, we've been working together for more than a year. And if you're trying to set me up with one of your friends, you might want to me to be at my best… whatever.
For me, the best way is straight up. You have something that need to be said, just tell me. I might not like hearing it at first or I might disagree with you, but at the same time, it might be something I just never realized and I'll thank you for it. As long as it's not confrontational (i.e. Man, your stench can peel wallpaper), I'll appreciate that you were honest enough to want to tell me.
(http://livejournal.com/users/talisker)